Prominent Nigerian dancer and fitness coach, Kaffy, has spoken openly about the deep struggles she continues to face after her divorce.
The 45-year-old entertainer revealed that being a single mother of two has made many men shy away from considering her for marriage.
Her candid disclosure came during a recent conversation where she expressed frustration at the harsh societal judgment divorced women endure.
According to her, the stigma often reduces a woman’s worth, even though statistics show that a large number of marriages eventually end in separation.
Sharing her experience, Kaffy recalled how some people dismissed her entirely because of her status.
“I’ve had somebody tell me because I’m a single mother, I can’t even think about dating me because I have two children,” she said.
She went further to question why society often assumes that divorced women are less desirable than unmarried ones.
In her view, people who have gone through divorce and healed may actually be better partners.
“What makes you think that a woman that has been divorced is not even the better candidate if she has worked on herself?” she asked.
Kaffy emphasized that marriage itself is not a guarantee of lifelong happiness, pointing out that over 70% of marriages eventually collapse.
She explained that many of those who criticize her marriage struggles are also divorced or living separately from their partners.
“99% of the people that criticize me about my marriage are either not married today or have left their marriages,” she stressed.
The dancer also reflected on her understanding of love after her personal experience.
According to her, what many people mistake for butterflies in relationships is sometimes just trauma responses.
“Real love brings peace, not butterflies. Real love is not supposed to make you anxious,” she said, adding that healing is still an ongoing journey for her.
Kaffy dismissed claims that she was irresponsible or reckless, stressing that she remained disciplined and focused even in her toughest moments.
“I know how responsible I am as a woman. I don’t sleep around. I don’t do casual stuff,” she said, while criticizing those who misrepresent her journey.
Her heartfelt story highlights the challenges many single mothers and divorced women face in Nigerian society.
